Starting out it might have felt that Romeo and Juliet had nothing on your life but as you progressed that narrative might have changed. It happens to most people. Feelings do have a shorter shelf life although that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road where marriage is concerned. One is to commit and create something beautiful together and the other is to part ways. The latter is more often approached wrongly as people are wrongly convinced that they’ve lost love for each other not knowing it was just the beginning of a beautiful friendship. There is a huge chance of getting that conclusion challenged in counselling as well as getting a new lease as far as marriage life is concerned.
The aim of couple counselling is to enhance the couples connection. An opportunity to tell the love story as it were before is offered to the couple. This gives that tick and brings back great memories. Then next there is a time to reflect on where things started to fall apart and the marriage got stuck in a rut. This gives insight to the counsellor on how to go about the process of reuniting the couple in tailor made manner. There is the part of identifying the endgame of what they would like their marriage to be and with that information on the table, the therapist has all the tools they need to facilitate the healing process.
The next stop is enhancing conflict resolution measures. Most marital problems are birthed from inability to communicate feelings properly. It’s harder for people to admit fault when they feel blamed for something but if better ways were used explain the problem things would have been different. What counselling does is that it seeks out alternative routes for couples to solve their issues. Tolerance, forgiveness and trust are built this way. It also brings about the aspect of vulnerability allowing for trust , intimacy, respect , a togetherness of sorts to be possible in instances where it might have been eroded like in cases of affairs or others.
Hard as it may be to accept not all relationships are built to last . The circumstances they might have been under might not allow for them to be together anymore. This necessitates the need for them to actually part ways. Still even in this circumstances counselling is of utmost importance. This aids in helping them empty their pain and set them towards the path of forgiveness that brings about healing. They will in this way part ways in peace having cleared whatever issues that saw them break up in the first place making it possible for a fresh start.